I hate meetings.
I. HATE. Meetings. Seriously.
From every single bit of work I had to do in my career, I must say that meetings are probably the part I hated (and still hate) the most.
For me this is amazing how much time and money we lose in meetings. It’s rare, from what I experienced, that meetings were straight forward, to the point without any sliding whatsoever.
During the years, I’ve learned two things:
- You don’t have to stay in a meeting where you strongly think you don’t belong
- As an analytic person, I need time to give proper answer to problems
I’ve never checked if I had some kind of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or just that I’m a hyperactive guy (the second option may be more accurate) but I’m really hard for me to just stay at a table around a bunch of people arguing with each other for hours.
The people who know me all know that “I have to click”. Standing still for me is really hard. Weirdly enough, I lose focus after a short period. I start thinking about whatever else and I’m just gone mentally. So being in the meeting or not, at some point, doesn’t change anything because my mind is still gone.
Luckily for me, at Larian, I don’t have meetings. I think I had like 4 in one and a half year. Compared to the number of meetings I had at Ubisoft, especially when I was a lead (sic). I learned that I just had to leave the meetings at some point. It was just useless for me, most of the time, to be in some meetings and I was honestly thinking I was better used in front of my computer.
Going back to the second point I wrote above, I’m not an impulsive person in the sense that most of the time if I get in front of a situation or a problem, as an analytic person I must analyze every single possibility, every single outcome (to some extend) and then, I can say what I must say about a subject.
It is not because I’m a slow thinker, it’s mostly the opposite. I’m a really fast thinker but I need to think about everything.
When I’m in a situation where I have to give an answer quickly without analyzing outcomes I often struggle and I say things that I didn’t wanted to simply because I didn’t had time to think about them.
For me, going to a meeting is, most of the time, putting myself in a situation where I won’t have any control on the outcome because I won’t be able to give enough time to analyze all the possibilities. Obviously meaning that I would be better used anywhere else than there.
Throughout the years, I’ve tried different approaches like preparing myself to a meeting, learning about the subjects and all. It’s good. For real. I still have the same problem though. I come prepare, I explain my point, we argue and at some point, I’m back on square one. I need to analyze to give proper answers.
I know that I’m not alone having this issue but either we are not a lot or a lot of people are just not considering this as important as me to be able to properly think before answering.
So yeah, all in all, after 11 years, I still hate meetings!
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